Here is Tip #2 in my “10 Tips to better Communication with your Animal Companion”
Emotional Leadership is something I talk a lot about in my book, Communication with all Life, Revelations of an Animal Communicator (Hay House), and in my new book, Energy Healing for Animals (Sounds True). We are the emotional thermostat in the household. If we are generally happy, our animals are happy. If we are experiencing lows, our animals will sulk with us. Sometimes they will do wacky fun things to ‘get us out of’ our state or rut.
If we are experiencing emotional highs or lows as a result of something outside the home, or experiencing stress with other humans in the household, the animals will feel this. It is important to maintain some sense of self and take emotional responsibility.
That’s not to say that when you are upset, you can’t cuddle with your cat or your dog or allow your horse to take you for a long relaxing trail ride to decompress. However, make sure that you thank them and let them know how much they helped. And then pull yourself together as much as you can so that they can see you are fine. Our emotional life can create a great deal of stress for their emotional life.
Taking Emotional Leadership in your household is also important so that you don’t feel guilty because you have to leave them at home while you work. Emotional Leadership includes not being frustrated because you can’t spend more time with them. Emotional Leadership is also saying that no matter where they are in health – they are A-OK – that we aren’t putting on them our unreasonable expectations. Emotional Leadership allows you to drop the unnecessary emotions that clog the clear communication.
Emotional Leadership also includes taking the bull by the horns even if it’s through visualization and seeing exactly the behavior you want and replaying that image in your mind. For example, if you have three cats that don’t get along and your dream would be that they all sat with you on the couch, then visualize this. Every time you picture them or remember them not getting along, replace the image with the desired outcome, immediately.
This is a double edged exercise (or necessity). Let’s take the negative behavior to begin with. Let’s say you have a dog that goes outside and every time it sees another dog, it gets leash aggressive. Not only do we remember the last event, our body, mind, voice remembers on a cellular level, therefore, our reaction is to become strained. Later that day at work or at lunch with friends the event flashes in our mind on that scene or worse, the scene that predates it that was worse and we carry all of that baggage with it.
Accidentally we have sent the image to the dog that when they are on the leash, this is what happens. Whether we are in Tukwilla, Taipai or buying a toothbrush at the store, make no mistake, the dog will get this message with the embedded feelings involved.
To undo this, you need to see this image appear in the mind screen, take a moment, breath, remember one of the best moments of your life of joy, excitement, pride – when the impossible was possible, feel that for a moment and then imagine walking down the street with your dog poised and friendly. Imagine sitting on the couch with all three cats happy, imagine your horse entering the show ring or the trail with complete confidence as a team or imagine you pulling your bird out of the cage with confidence. If it is a dog show or a horse show, really allow the desired feeling to come up first and then the preferred outcome by playing the entire class, test or trial to unfold in your best interest for both parties.
If you have inherited bad behavior as a result of an adoption, this is the perfect time to rewrite the story for this animal. You have the chance to rename, and recreate the future of this animal’s story.
If you are someone that feels like you take solace in your home life and animals because you are beaten up by the world AND you come home and your animals don’t behave, feeling like a hostage to your situation won’t help household management. What if you pulled yourself up by your bootstraps for 5 minutes and were to say what you mean, mean what you say and take your emotional leadership in the household, suddenly you would get to… Tip #3: Quiet Time
How are you an Emotional Leader for your animals?